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Johnny Depp, Male Victimization and IPV: An Ideological Quagmire



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Since the conclusion of the Depp vs. Heard defamation trial in Fairfax, Virginia, there has been on-going conversation surrounding abuse, intimate partner violence, and male victimization. Many vehemently believe that Depp was a victim of Heard, whereas many others believe Heard was a victim of Depp. The polarization, though plagued with frequent vitriol and impassioned opinions, has also reignited the discussion surrounding not only female perpetrators of IPV, but their male victims. A somewhat “forbidden narrative”, research pertaining to male victimization at the hands of female intimate partners is extremely limited. However, we are starting to understand the ways in which men identify with their victimhood and why.

Intimate Partner Violence

Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a worldwide epidemic that causes negative impacts on the health and wellbeing of victims, families, and communities (Hamberger, Larsen, & Lehrner, 2017; Bonomi et al., 2006; Coker et al., 2000; Cooper & Smith, 2011; Pico-Alfonso et al., 2006; Sheridan & Nash, 2007; Whitaker et al., 2007) To date, there is a substantial amount of literature and empirical research that focuses on women’s experiences of IPV victimization, however what is less frequently explored, studied and analyzed are men’s experiences of IPV victimization. This is despite the repeated finding that men and women self-report perpetrating physical violence at similar rates (Mennicke & Kulkarni, 2016; Langhinrichsen-Rohling et al., 2012). As far back as 2007, over 100 studies found that men and women were equally likely to perpetrate violence (Robertson & Murachver, 2007; e.g., Archer, 2000; Magdol et al., 1997; Schumacher & Leonard, 2005; Straus, 2004).

These findings have prompted a surge in empirical research concerning the role of gender in IPV perpetration, the conceptualization of power and control as it relates to violence, and the ways in which men and women recognize and articulate their victimhood at the hands of an intimate partner (Hamberger, Larsen, & Lehrner, 2017).

“Men are less likely than women to claim the status of ‘victim,’ even though they are more likely to define their experiences as ‘violent’ (Durfee, 2011; Owen, 1995). When they do acknowledge their victimization, they attempt to balance the roles of ‘victim’ and ‘man’ to conform to the characteristics and ideals of hegemonic masculinity” (Durfee, 2011).”

Hegemonic Masculinity and Feminist Theory

Ingender theory, hegemonic masculinity is “the [set of] qualities defined as manly that establish and legitimate a hierarchal and complementary relationship to femininity that, by doing so, guarantee the dominant position of men and the subordination of women” (Durfee, 2011; Schippers 2007). Some characteristics of hegemonic masculinity include, but are not limited to, dominance over women, power, physical strength, aggression and control (Durfee, 2011). Feminist IPV conceptualizations view the perpetration of physical violence as a means of power and control within intimate relationships (Mennicke & Kulkarni, 2016; Dobash and Dobash, 1979).

Men are widely believed to be the primary perpetrators of IPV. This presumption was shaped and supported by feminist activists, who posed that IPV arises out of a patriarchal social system in which men feel entitled to gain and maintain control of women (Robertson & Murachver, 2007; Dobash and Dobash, 1979). Indeed, these feminist conceptualizations birthed the Duluth Model, which focuses on intervention and community responses (Bohall, Bautista, & Musson, 2016). The Duluth Model is a model for intervention, specifically “for men who batter women with no consideration for women who batter men or same-sex couples” (Bohall, Bautista, & Musson, 2016). It has received increasing amounts of criticism because it all but negates all other fields of the behavioral sciences and has not incorporated any research updates outside of feminist theory that have emerged in understanding IPV, such as theoretical explanations for family violence (Bohall, Bautista, & Musson, 2016).

Gender theory’s hegemonic masculine qualities and feminist theory have a synergistic relationship, where a man’s inherent drive to exert control over women and their physical strength and aggression create increased risk for the use of physical violence as a means for control over their female partners. However, given the inherently biased foundation of feminist theory as it pertains to IPV, negating women who perpetrate violence against men, and that it has “difficulty accounting for and explaining same-sex, same-gender, and lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) violence” (Coston, 2021), it would seem that more research is needed to understand IPV from varying sociocultural and gendered perspectives. If feminist theory was able to account for all instances of IPV, how do we reconcile male victimization and female perpetration?

“The finding that women can and do perpetrate IPV has stimulated further debate surrounding the comparability of male and female violence” (Robertson & Murachver, 2007)

Male Victimization and Female Perpetration

The differences in how men and women experience IPV cannot be understated. Gender stereotypes, such as hegemonic masculinity, create gender barriers for male victims of IPV (Brooks, Martin, Broda, & Poudrier, 2017). Men fear disclosing violence against them due to anticipated ridicule and feeling emasculated (Brooks et al., 2017). Similar to female victims, male victims experience depression, PTSD, and suicidal ideation as a result of IPV (Randle & Graham, 2011). Power and control are considered a centerpiece for IPV. Male victims often attempt to preserve their own power and control, whether that be in the form of denial of their own status as a victim or not expressing fear related to IPV victimization, even minimizing their injuries or belittling their abuser and her acts of violence (Brooks et al., 2017; Corbally, 2015; Durfee, 2011).

Male victims will often describe the violence they experienced, but focus on how they were still in control of the relationship (Durfee, 2011). By separating their identifies as “man” and “victim,” male victims are able to describe the assaults they endured, but never vocalize their identity as a victim of IPV. In fact, they seemingly carefully craft their narratives to ensure that they note active resistance to the abuse, but are careful to note that they were not the abuser (Durfee, 2011). When their female partners initiate assaults, many men attempt to temporarily leave their home, try to hide, try to calm themselves, and drink alcohol (Machado, Santos, Graham-Kevan, & Matos, 2017). Male victims also describe trying to resist self-defense, however if necessary, they will restrain their female assailant until the assault discontinues (Durfee, 2011).

“After an argument, I was attempting to leave our house to “cool down” when she attempted to restrain me from leaving by repeated blows and holding me from the door. I backed her into a wall. After checking to make sure she was not seriously hurt I left the premises. . . .” (Durfee, 2011)

In an effort to balance out the stereotypes related to hegemonic masculine traits of physical strength, dominance, and aggression, male victims position “themselves as having power and control in the relationship while simultaneously experiencing violence at the hands of their partners…[only] using physical force to repel their partners’ attacks” (Durfee, 2011). The need for control and a lack of fear, as well as being able to repel attacks, places men in precarious positions where they run the risk of not being believed by friends, family, and law enforcement because conventional images of victims “include powerlessness and helplessness, while stereotypical abusers have control over their victims” (Durfee, 2011).

Male Victimization and Johnny Depp

Cases of IPV are immensely complex and Depp vs. Heard is no exception. We heard from both parties about incidences of verbal, psychological, emotional, and physical abuse that seemed to ebb and flow throughout their short, but tumultuous relationship. As an alleged victim, Heard claims Depp’s abuse was due to his drug and alcohol use. Whereas, as an alleged victim, Depp claims Heard at times had uncontrollable rage, yet could be exceptionally caring. Both claimed the abuse, whomever the perpetrator, was seemingly cyclical, but escalated as their relationship continued.

“If things get physical, we have to separate. We have to be apart from one another, whether it’s for fuckin’ an hour or ten hours or fuckin’ a day, we must. There can be no physical violence” — Johnny Depp

What struck me was Depp’s consistent pleading for peace and attempts to separate when arguments seemingly escalated between he and Heard. On multiple audio recordings, we hear Depp emphasizing the need to separate, cool off, and regroup once they’ve calmed down to avoid unhealthy and volatile confrontation. Heard even accuses him, multiple times, of leaving the second things become escalated, running to one of his other houses. We hear Depp explaining how he would lock himself in rooms to avoid Heard’s alleged assaults. We also hear Heard taunting him, emasculating him for running away, for “splitting,” telling him sarcastically “that that’s what a real man does.”

“It’s not to get you mad, it’s not — it’s just to get out of a bad situation while it’s happening before it gets worse. In Australia, when we had the big fight where I lost the tip of my finger, at least five bathrooms and two bedrooms I went to — to — to — to escape the fight” — Johnny Depp

Depp testified to “bear hugging” Heard to discontinue an alleged assault and, accidentally, head-butting her. When she exclaimed he had hurt her, he testified to showing compassion and asking to examine her injury. Prior to the most violent incident in Australia in 2015, Depp testified to a barrage of demeaning insults by Heard, which drove him to break his sobriety and drink alcohol. At one point we even hear Heard calling Depp a “fucking baby,” for “bitching” about her allegedly punching him in the face. She also minimizes her admitted violence.

“You didn’t get punched, you got hit. I’m sorry I hit you like this, but I did not punch you. I did not fucking deck you. I fucking was hitting you. I don’t know what the motion of my actual hand was, but you’re fine. I did not hurt you, I did not punch you, I was hitting you” — Amber Heard

“You are such a baby! Grow the fuck up, Johnny!” — Amber Heard


Having an understanding of IPV and the ways in which men and women experience victimization differently, and similarly, is critical when analyzing a case like Depp vs. Heard. Though there is acknowledgement of gender symmetry in the perpetration of IPV, more empirical research is needed to fully understand the role of gender in IPV perpetration, the conceptualization of power and control as it relates to violence, and the ways in which men and women recognize and articulate their victimhood at the hands of an intimate partner (Hamberger, Larsen, & Lehrner, 2017). For me, Depp vs. Heard has forced me to acknowledge my biases and ignorance pertaining to IPV and gender bias. Perhaps, despite the polarization, this will encourage us all to challenge our worldviews and examine such cases with new perspective.

*This article is not a comprehensive or empirical study of IPV, gender symmetry, male and female victimization, male and female perpetration, gender bias, hegemonic masculinity, coercive control, feminist theories, or family violence theories. I am not a professional psychologist, psychiatrist, scientist or researcher.

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When Johnny Depp was in love with ‘beautiful and brilliant ’ Amber Heard: “ I am a lucky man”




Johnny Depp, who recently won a blockbuster defamation case against ex-wife Amber Heard, once talked very fondly of her and called himself’ a lucky man’ to have her in his life.

The couple were married for two years. In 2016, Amber filed for divorce and secured a temporary restraining order against Johnny. However, the two were recently involved in a high-profile defamation trial.

During their six-weeks trial that ended on June 1, the couple accused each other of abusive behaviour in their marriage.

The Pirates of The Caribbean star, 59, emerged victorious in his $50m defamation case against Heard after three days of deliberations by a jury, which also handed Heard a partial win in her countersuit.

Following this, an old interview of Johnny has resurfaced over the internet as he says good words for Heard.

In 2015, during Amber’s film The Danish Girl’s premiere, Johnny told Eonline, “We connect on a lot of levels but the first things that really got me was she’s an aficionado of the blues. I would play a song, some old obscure blues song, and she knew what it was. She’s very very literate. She’s a voracious reader as I have been, so we connected on that as well and she’s kind of brilliant and beautiful. I am a lucky man.”

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Lily-Rose Depp net worth: What is the fortune of Johnny Depp’s daughter?




Born on May 27, 1999, Lily-Rose Depp is a very normal little girl… except that her parents are international stars: Johnny Deppand Vanessa Paradis. Lily-Rose is followed by her little brother, Jack John Christopher, on April 9th 2002. Their parents are married since June 1998, and symbolize the glamour of the Hollywood couple.

The interpreter of Jack Sparrow in Pirate of the Caribbean and the singer of Joe the Taxi do everything to preserve their children of the flashes of the celebrity. They grow up far from the cameras, between France and the United States.

During her childhood, Lily-Rose Deppshows a certain affinity with music: according to her mother, it is she who would have sung the first notes of the song New Year (released on the album Love Songs in 2013): “My daughter, who was 6 years old at the time, began to hum something sublime. That melody has stuck, along with the first sentence of the text, just as she sang it at 6 years old.” Lily-Rose is therefore credited on the album! In 2012, her parents separated and their divorce was highly publicized.

If one could imagine a career in music, it is towards the cinema that the teenager turns. In the summer of 2014, at the age of 15, she made an appearance in the film Tusk by Kevin Smith. An extra that everyone defines as her first film role.

Dreams of the big screen become a reality in 2016 with the release in September of The Dancer by Stephanie Di Giusto, starring Gaspard Ulliel, Soko and Melanie Thierry, among others. The film is presented a few months earlier in the selection Un certain regard at the Cannes Film Festival. The general public discovered Lily-Rose Depp. The same year, we find the actress on the poster of Planetarium, by Rebecca Zlotowski, where she shares the poster with Natalie Portman.

In 2018, she plays in Les Fauves by Vincent Mariette with Laurent Lafitte and in L’Homme fidèle by Louis Garrel with Laetitia Casta. In 2019, Lily-Rose Deppplays Queen Catherine of Valois in The King by David Michôd, a historical fiction produced by Netflix. She rubs shoulders with the French-American actor Timothée Chalamet, with whom she has been in a relationship since 2018.

In February 2019, Lily-Rose Depp paid a poignant tribute to the artistic director of the house of Chanel, the German couturier Karl Lagerfeld, who had just passed away at the age of 85. “Karl, we love you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You are eternal,” wrote in particular the one who became a Chanel muse from the age of sixteen.

What Is Lily-Rose Depp’s Net Worth?

In her short but important career, Lily-Rose has accumulated a fortune of 2 million dollars. She has won several awards such as the Los Angeles Film Award, the Cesar Award, the Lumieres Award, the Romy Schneider Award and the CinEuphoria Award.

In the past, Lily-Rose has suffered from anorexia, and in 2016, she confided in “French Elle” about her followers on social networks who commented on her weight, stating, “It hurts me a lot and makes me depressed, because I spent a lot of energy fighting the disease.” She added, “I have been battling an eating disorder for a long time and I am very proud of the results I have achieved.”

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Quentin Tarantino Pushed Back on Studio Head’s Request to Cast Johnny Depp Over Tim Roth in Pulp Fiction




Quentin Tarantino revealed that he had to push back against studio demands to have Johnny Depp as first choice for key Pulp Fiction role.

Pulp Fiction is one of those movies that seems to have the perfect cast in just the right roles. However, a recent viral post has suggested that the actors who made up the iconic ensemble could have been different, and one role, in particular, had director Quentin Tarantino at odds with the head of the studio. The list of potential actors who could have been in line to take on some of the roles in the action movie included Johnny Depp, who was second on Tarantino’s “wish list” for the Tim Roth role of Pumpkin. However, the director was adamant that Roth was who he wanted, even if that went against how the studio saw it.

While appearing on the 2 Bears, 1 Cavepodcast, Tarantino responded to the viral post, which showed the actors he potentially wanted to play key roles, including Vincent and Lance. While the compiled list shows Tarantino’s options and overall preference, the director explained that it was not simply a “wish list” of who he wanted in the movie. He said:

“On the internet there’s a thing floating around about my wish list of the cast of Pulp Fiction, it’s kind of floating around and it’s not. It’s not that, not really. I didn’t know exactly who I wanted to play this part or that part, so I wrote a giant list with a ton of names. I wanted to get them all pre-approved sure and I didn’t know if it’s gonna work out, if I would like vibe with the person or if they would even do a good job but I wanted to get them approved…It’s kind of all over the place but that was kind of the idea, I wanted to be able to explore it and go all over the place but then I’m also really very opinionated.

How Did Johnny Depp Not Get A Role In Pulp Fiction?

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As part of Tarantino’s list of possible stars, Johnny Depp appeared as his third choice for Pumpkin and was also a possible inclusion for the role of Lance, which eventually went to Eric Stoltz. When Tarantino put forward his list, it seemed that the head of the studio wanted to know why they would be offering the role of Pumpkin to Roth over Depp. Tarantino also noted that they told him that they would not offer the role to Roth until three others had turned the role down. In response, the director asked them:

‘Do you think Johnny Depp playing the role of Pumpkin in this movie, which is the opening scene and the closing scene that’s it, do you think that will add that much to the box office?’”

As it turns out, they didn’t believe it would add anything in terms of box office success. Still, as Tarantino concluded, many studios at the time thought having a big-name star on board would help if the movie ended up being a critical failure. But, of course, we all know that even without Johnny Depp bookending the film, Pulp Fiction managed to do just fine.

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